“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and its better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ~Marylin Monroe
I have been in this town for two weeks and have barely left my house. Its killing me… but whats a girl to do? Young single girl out alone in a town shes not only not familiar with, but probably is unlike to know how to get home in - sounds like the makings of a horror story if you ask me. That or a lonely hermit, and a hermit is one thing I refuse to allow myself to become…. How dreadfully dull! So heres the question… How do you do it? I have never before been in a situation where I didnt have some form of school to fall back on as a form of meeting people. This is all new to me! You would think this whole meeting people would get easier with time, yet somehow the older I get the more of a challenge it seems to be. Theres a lot to be said about the ignorance of childhood, children are always honest, and they just are who they are, then we grow up and lose it all! Im not even really sure that is my issue though, Im well aware that you can never please everyone and it not like I need everyone to like me or anything of the sort, its more that I just don’t really know how to start up a conversation with a complete stranger! Put me in a group with a bunch of strangers and I clam up; and all of this is really quite odd because Im really not a quite person! Why do I suddenly become so painfully shy? So I ask, how does a girl face a new town all alone?
May 6, 2008 at 7:57 am
I wish I could be of more help, but I am just not sure. I know that once you’re settled into a job you’ll feel a little better. Have you gone out with Brandy?
May 6, 2008 at 2:24 pm
First I love that quote!
As for meeting people, I would just go to places I like, like bookstores, little coffee shops and stuff. You can always meet people with similar interests there
May 6, 2008 at 9:37 pm
I so love the quote!
Hmm. I haven’t been in that situation before but i find it exciting.
at least you can go around your house naked all the time. ooops. :p
May 9, 2008 at 12:07 am
I second the bookstores and coffee shops! I found that once I started doing things in the town I’m in that I like to do, I found people with similar interests. But before that I was feeling scared, alone, desperate…the normal stuff when we feel like we have no allies or people to call just to grab dinner or a drink. Also, during that alone time I became pretty comfortable with going to the movies by myself, grabbing a drink a bar and just people watching or grabbing a meal at a favorite restaurant. Hang in there!
May 12, 2008 at 10:39 am
I’m afraid I won’t be much help here as I can’t really speak from experience, but I do relate to clamming up with strangers - I never fight to be heard in a group and of course I should! But what about taking a class or something, joining a gym, or as other people have said just doing the things you enjoy so that you end up with some regular hang outs? That way you will probably bump into the same people a lot and striking up a conversation will be easier. It’s amazing the amount of people you meet even at the bus stop if you’re there the same time every day. Once you do meet a couple of people you’ll eventually be introduced to their friends and before you know it will be part of a whole network of people. I know it’s scary and good luck xx
May 16, 2008 at 10:58 am
I force myself everyday to meet new people and I get weird looks, especially in Canada, or rather BC, where these people just don’t know how to deal with a chirpy English bird who actually says good morning to them. It’s funny and makes me want to force them to lighten up even more.
That said, I feel your pain. I hate having to actually make the effort to make friends. It’s nice when it all just falls easily into place, but I guess that’s unrealistic.
I say, just be yourself and they will be attracted like moths to your beautiful nature. You will not be alone for long, I can assure you of that.
May 16, 2008 at 2:54 pm
thanks everyone! I really appreciate it!